I am sure that many moms can relate to her question!
"Hi Dawn. I always enjoy reading your blog. Just wondering if you take some questions...For some reason, your name keeps popping to mind every time I think about this issue I have regarding raising my kids. When my husband is home or I have company coming over, I am pretty intentional about devoting time away from kids and being organized etc, but on a normal day, I tend to let the chores slip (and then I rush to get them done right before my husband gets home) because I feel guilty about not doing things with B & J. If I start cleaning or something else I need to get done, it seems the day slips away and I feel like I didn't get enough quality time with my kids. If I start the day with them first, it seems the house is in shambles by lunchtime. Maybe I am just not organized enough and maybe I am just feeling too guilty when I shouldn't. I know there just needs to be a healthy balance, but do you have any tips on achieving it? B is good about entertaining herself and even helping me cook & clean up around the house, but I feel guilty about not spending more time reading/playing with her...What do you think? Thanks - A. "
(First of all - I adore questions!! I get tons of them, whether in e-mail, Facebook, in the hallway at church, or the
So, can you relate? Ha!! I'm sure every mom has had moments of wondering if she was short changing the children while trying to maintain her home; or whether she was letting too many chores slide while reading to/playing with her children.
Is there a balance to be found? I believe the answer is yes! In 1 Timothy 5:17, Paul instructs young widows to "get married, bear children, and keep house, giving the enemy no occasion for reproach."
Now we aren't specifically talking about widows here, but Paul was addressing young women, so we can still apply the principle to our own lives as young women.
Obviously, Paul didn't intend for these young women to divide their life up between bearing children, housekeeping, and marriage! These things are completely inter-woven in a young woman's life. Marriage typically brings children; and children typically bring the need for more housekeeping!! I think we can all agree on that!
The question then becomes, as this young mom asked, "How do I do it all, and escape the guilt that comes from feeling like I am failing something, or somebody?"
First of all, I will say that I believe this is false guilt. This sweet mother is seeing that her children need her attention, and that her house also needs her attention. She is obviously not neglecting either of these needs on purpose, and is actually probably not neglecting them at all! But sometimes as mothers, we feel stretched...too stretched. It seems as if there just is not enough of us to go around.
I have a few ideas for this young mom, and I hope it will be an encouragement for the rest of you.
(Goodness, I have 8 children still at home, and I am homeschooling all of them! I need to write this to encourage my own self!!)
So, come back tomorrow, and let's see if we can come up with some ideas to help all of us as we endeavor to be just one faithful mom.